Hi Beautiful People,
It’s no secret we’re all on a quest for happiness. Consciously or unconsciously, we all desire happiness.
I had the privilege of attending an event which inspired this blog.
No matter where you are in life, or what your life experience is. Whether you believe me or not, you deserve happiness.
One of the biggest hurdles we come across in our quest for happiness, is the question “How do I find happiness?” Well, beautiful people, I have some things to share with you today to help you find the answer.
The majority of society seeks happiness in the 10% of the blueprint to happiness. What is the 10% you ask? It’s our circumstances! i.e.
- Your house
- Job or Career
- Social Life
We link our happiness to our circumstances. Most of our circumstances are built up of material ‘things’. Not all of them. Our circumstances play a role in our happiness, though only 10%. It’s a myth happiness (as a whole), comes from society constantly encouraging us to have more ‘things’, be ‘better’, earn ‘more’.
“You came into this world with nothing, (no thing) and you’ll leave this world with nothing, (no thing). ‘Things’ only hold the value you place on them.”
Circumstances never bring long-term happiness. Happiness is long-term. Circumstances bring pleasure. Pleasure brings short-term happiness.
What are your beliefs about happiness? Where do you think it comes from?
Take a moment to think about it.
Firstly, what is a belief? I have two answers.
Firstly, a belief is made up of 2 areas.
1. Assumption (About what our life is meant to be like)
2. Expectation (Expectation of where we are or are not against our assumption)
Secondly, a belief is simply a thought you think over and over again.
How can you change your beliefs? I’m SO glad you asked.
Change your thoughts.
Sound too easy? Well, it’s not! K.I.S.S – Don’t overcomplicate it.
Listen to and become aware of the beliefs and stories you tell yourself. They might be “I’m not good enough, not worthy enough, not smart enough, I can’t, I don’t have what it takes”.
Whatever the story is you are telling yourself, simply become aware.
Awareness precedes change!
When you become aware of the stories, beliefs and thoughts you have, you can change them. Awareness is powerful. It literally has the ability to change things in an instant.
There is NO shortcut to anywhere worth going!
Depression, Mental Illness, and Suicide are serious issues. There are amazing organisations who are passionately raising awareness and helping break the stigma of Mental Illness. I’ve dealt with Mental Illness for most of my life, and anyone who works towards creating a happier world inspires me. People like Happiness Co. You may or may not have heard of them. They featured on Today Tonight, you can watch the video here. Founder of Happiness Co. Julian Pace, or ‘Jules’ as many people know him by, is one of the most genuine and authentic guys I’ve ever met. He made me want to be a better person just by listening to him speak. He’s real.
As we all do, Jules has a story which is how he got to where he is today. Read more about it on the Happiness Co. website. Jules and his ambassadors are on a mission. I’m here to help spread the word. I am not part of the company and have no affiliations. I simply believe in their cause. It aligns with my own message of helping empower and inspire others to be the best version of themselves.
Jules and I @ today’s‘ event!
Here is how to find happiness:
Happiness is a choice.
You read before, change your thoughts and you can change your beliefs. Do you want to be happy, or are you waiting for happiness to come to you? “I’ll be happy when I get the job I want. I’ll be happy when I get the new car. I’ll be happy when I lose the weight and reach my goal weight. I’ll be happy when I love myself. I’ll be happy when I…..”
Whatever you’re telling yourself. You are CHOOSING to believe those things.
You can CHOOSE to be happy NOW.
I said earlier “There’s no shortcut to anywhere worth going”. It takes time, and work. It is worth it! I promise you.
When you look at your life, what do you see? Do you see what you don’t have or everything you do have?
Change your EXPECTATION for APPRECIATION.
I sat in a room today with people who had 20+ years of trauma and have had to overcome extremely difficult situations in order to become the person they wanted to be. I alone have an extensive traumatic history. We were all there for one thing. To better ourselves. You’re never too old, and there’s no better time than now.
Two BEAUTIFUL Women I’ve had to privilege of witnessing incredible transformations of.
You are only ever 1 step away from changing your life. 1 step.
People believe happiness is an unattainable destination far off in the distance. #False
Happiness is a choice!
If you feel hopeless, or feel happiness simply isn’t attainable. You may be angry or caught up in what seems to be an endless nightmare. I’m not saying you can simply snap your fingers and arrive at happiness. What I’m saying is by changing your thoughts and being willing to change, being open, you can find your way to becoming a happier person. Say a simple prayer or affirmation “I’m willing and ready for a change. I want to be happy and am willing to see things differently than I have prior to this moment. I am ready to learn through love.” It takes courage and strength.
I believe in you!
“Where your focus goes, energy flows.” Live your life by DESIGN
The more you tell your “pain” story, the more the “pain” story becomes you.
The beauty is being able to CHOOSE how you want to design your life.
(Design is 40% of happiness.)
Happiness comes from the choices you make!
Are you grateful for what you have?
Grateful people have more to be grateful for.
The only things which grow in life are the things you give time and energy to.
Where are you focusing your time and energy?
Are you focusing on personal growth and development?
Are you seeking happiness in an outside source?
Happiness comes from within.
You’ve got every single answer you could ever need if you are courageous enough to look in the right areas. You’ve got it in you. You’ve always had it. We’ve just been led to believe happiness lives in ‘things’ or outside of ourselves. The only limit is you ❤
We don’t see the world as it is. We see it as we are.
Albert Einstein said, “The most important decision to make is whether you live in a friendly or hostile universe”.
How do you perceive the world? How you see the world is how the world will show up for you. Remember, Change your thoughts, change your life.
1 heart at a time Jules says.
Happiness Co. runs the 21 Day Happiness Challenge which has already impacted hundreds of lives since the inception just a few short months ago. You can hear more about it in the Today Tonight story or by checking out their Facebook page.
If you want more happiness in your life, you can use some of the tools above. I also highly recommend checking out Happiness Co. Their message, #TogetherWeCan. Together, we CAN make the world a happier place.
Please share this message today, you never know who needs it.
Let’s unite. With Love, Compassion, and CHOOSE happiness.
Always choose Love.
We were BORN to be happy. It’s our birthright.
Choose to be happy today.
Love, Light & Peace,
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